Do you monitor your emotional health and take action when you are in trouble? Let’s face it, most of us don’t.
Even if you did pay attention to your emotional health, would you know how to alleviate emotional pain when your feelings were hurt, how to improve your confidence when your self-esteem was low, or how to recover after a loss? Again, most of us do not.
Here are some habits that will help you manage your emotional health:
1. Protect your self-esteem: When our self-esteem is low, we often become self-critical, and we make ourselves more susceptible to stress, anxiety, or failure. So stop the self-condemnation and protect your self-esteem when it’s low by applying self-compassion techniques. Whenever self-critical thoughts enter into your head, think about what you would say to a close friend who expressed similar feelings. Then direct those exact thoughts to yourself. Exercising self-compassion and allowing your self-esteem to recover will give a big helping hand to your overall emotional health.
2. Take control after a failure: When we fail, our perceptions are influenced so that our goals seem further out of reach. As a result, we often feel weak and unreceptive, and we lose our motivation. To fight those feelings, evaluate your goal and how you approached it. Review all the factors that are in your control such as effort, preparation, and planning, and reconsider how you can improve the realization of each of them.
3. Find meaning after a loss: Loss is a natural part of life and something none of us can avoid. Despite how painful the loss is, one aspect has been found to be extremely important for emotional recovery – our capacity to find meaning in the events. Once you’ve begun to get well, think about possible ways in which you might obtain some good from the situation. You might develop a greater gratitude to those who remain, or take action to pay tribute to what or who has been lost.
4. Recover self-worth after a rejection: One of the reasons rejections are so painful is that they are registered by our brain like physical pain. Often we’re likely to misinterpret the magnitude of emotional pain we feel as an indication that we’re weak, and harm our self-worth even further.
In order to help your self-esteem recover, remind yourself of what you have to offer. Make a list of the strengths you know you have and that are valuable in the sphere in which you were rejected. Reminding yourself of the many things you have to offer will improve your self-esteem, reduce your emotional pain, and improve your short- and long-term emotional health.
Acquiring new habits is not an easy process. But it might be the right time we give our emotional health the same tender loving care we typically afford our physical bodies!